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		<title>By: Deborah Costello</title>
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		<dc:creator>Deborah Costello</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 12:46:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tara,  I appreciate your kind words and too am grateful that we can have a respectful discussion without all of the posturing that is so common on so many sites.

I cannot begin to know the conversations on Hitler and certainly there were celebrations.  Obviously the circumstances differed, but it would make for an interesting discussion.  

If you are interested in finding out more about Hitler&#039;s supporters, particularly women in Germany, you might consider Claudia Koontz&#039;s challenging book, &quot;Mothers in the Fatherland: Women, the Family and Nazi Politics.&quot;  In it she discusses the roles of various groups of women inplayed in Nazi Germany, both in their actions and their silence. 

I wish you well.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tara,  I appreciate your kind words and too am grateful that we can have a respectful discussion without all of the posturing that is so common on so many sites.</p>
<p>I cannot begin to know the conversations on Hitler and certainly there were celebrations.  Obviously the circumstances differed, but it would make for an interesting discussion.  </p>
<p>If you are interested in finding out more about Hitler&#8217;s supporters, particularly women in Germany, you might consider Claudia Koontz&#8217;s challenging book, &#8220;Mothers in the Fatherland: Women, the Family and Nazi Politics.&#8221;  In it she discusses the roles of various groups of women inplayed in Nazi Germany, both in their actions and their silence. </p>
<p>I wish you well.</p>
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		<title>By: There IS a Difference . . . &#124; THE STRATEGIC LEARNER</title>
		<link>http://leadchangegroup.com/silent-leadership/comment-page-1/#comment-2343</link>
		<dc:creator>There IS a Difference . . . &#124; THE STRATEGIC LEARNER</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 11:07:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[[...] We experience what we allow by our words and our actions.  We also experience what we allow by our silence.  For more around how silence affects leadership, see Deborah Costello&#8217;s great post and ensuring discussion at the Great Leadership website. [...]]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] We experience what we allow by our words and our actions.  We also experience what we allow by our silence.  For more around how silence affects leadership, see Deborah Costello&#8217;s great post and ensuring discussion at the Great Leadership website. [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Deborah Costello</title>
		<link>http://leadchangegroup.com/silent-leadership/comment-page-1/#comment-2342</link>
		<dc:creator>Deborah Costello</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 10:27:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[For those following this discussion you might find this article from this morning&#039;s NY Times interesting. If you have further thoughts, you are welcome to share them here. 
 http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/06/health/06revenge.html?_r=1&amp;nl=todaysheadlines&amp;emc=tha22]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For those following this discussion you might find this article from this morning&#8217;s NY Times interesting. If you have further thoughts, you are welcome to share them here.<br />
 <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/06/health/06revenge.html?_r=1&#038;nl=todaysheadlines&#038;emc=tha22" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/06/health/06revenge.html?_r=1&#038;nl=todaysheadlines&#038;emc=tha22</a></p>
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		<title>By: Tara R. Alemany</title>
		<link>http://leadchangegroup.com/silent-leadership/comment-page-1/#comment-2341</link>
		<dc:creator>Tara R. Alemany</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 00:59:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hi, Deborah.

Thanks for having the courage to request a dialog around a topic you knew had to have many different viewpoints. I love the respect with which we have been able to share our differences and learn from one another.

I think that&#039;s one of the marks of a true leader, to foster communication when it&#039;s easier to ignore things. It grows people together in ways that nothing else can. So, thanks for stepping out in courage today. I&#039;m sure that your students are blessed to know you.

This is going to be my last contribution today on the subject, but as I was reading through the other comments and your replies, I couldn&#039;t help but wonder what some of the discussions were like when Adolf Hitler died. He couldn&#039;t have become as powerful as he was without some supporters. Too bad we can&#039;t easily tap into the conversations they were having 60+ years ago to see what they learned from the experience...]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi, Deborah.</p>
<p>Thanks for having the courage to request a dialog around a topic you knew had to have many different viewpoints. I love the respect with which we have been able to share our differences and learn from one another.</p>
<p>I think that&#8217;s one of the marks of a true leader, to foster communication when it&#8217;s easier to ignore things. It grows people together in ways that nothing else can. So, thanks for stepping out in courage today. I&#8217;m sure that your students are blessed to know you.</p>
<p>This is going to be my last contribution today on the subject, but as I was reading through the other comments and your replies, I couldn&#8217;t help but wonder what some of the discussions were like when Adolf Hitler died. He couldn&#8217;t have become as powerful as he was without some supporters. Too bad we can&#8217;t easily tap into the conversations they were having 60+ years ago to see what they learned from the experience&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Deborah Costello</title>
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		<dc:creator>Deborah Costello</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 00:10:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Thank you for your kind words, Tanveer.  Let me return the favor by commenting on your phrase, &quot;celebrating the death of anyone...shortens the gap between what we despise and what we aim to be as a society.&quot; I have always struggled to express my fundamental dismay at some of society&#039;s seemingly acceptable behaviors.  Your words help me focus my thoughts.  Thank you for joining our discussion.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for your kind words, Tanveer.  Let me return the favor by commenting on your phrase, &#8220;celebrating the death of anyone&#8230;shortens the gap between what we despise and what we aim to be as a society.&#8221; I have always struggled to express my fundamental dismay at some of society&#8217;s seemingly acceptable behaviors.  Your words help me focus my thoughts.  Thank you for joining our discussion.</p>
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		<title>By: Deborah Costello</title>
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		<dc:creator>Deborah Costello</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 May 2011 00:04:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Thank you Leigh for sharing you story and adding to this discussion.  I learn from each person&#039;s post, and I especially love your phrase &quot;dialogue constructively about difference.&quot;  I believe that this is difficult and must be approached with openness and willingness to listen.  I struggle with this in class as we discuss difficult issues together.  My students are nearly adults and already have strong opinions about many issues.  My hope is indeed that we can dialogue constructively, just as we have done here, knowing it is not necesary to agree with every person, but only to listen and honestly consider another point of view.  

My friend Lali once mentioned that she has respect for people that can disagree with her intelligently. I could not agree with her more.

Thank you Leigh.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you Leigh for sharing you story and adding to this discussion.  I learn from each person&#8217;s post, and I especially love your phrase &#8220;dialogue constructively about difference.&#8221;  I believe that this is difficult and must be approached with openness and willingness to listen.  I struggle with this in class as we discuss difficult issues together.  My students are nearly adults and already have strong opinions about many issues.  My hope is indeed that we can dialogue constructively, just as we have done here, knowing it is not necesary to agree with every person, but only to listen and honestly consider another point of view.  </p>
<p>My friend Lali once mentioned that she has respect for people that can disagree with her intelligently. I could not agree with her more.</p>
<p>Thank you Leigh.</p>
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		<title>By: Deborah Costello</title>
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		<dc:creator>Deborah Costello</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 May 2011 23:55:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tara, I am deeply sorry for the loss your family suffered, and I do hope that there is some kind of peace for all those that suffered loss and pain on Septemeber 11 and in the almost ten years since.  In the context of this piece I will not remain silent but will fairly state that I am not in favor of the death penalty.  However I will save that particular discussion for another day.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tara, I am deeply sorry for the loss your family suffered, and I do hope that there is some kind of peace for all those that suffered loss and pain on Septemeber 11 and in the almost ten years since.  In the context of this piece I will not remain silent but will fairly state that I am not in favor of the death penalty.  However I will save that particular discussion for another day.</p>
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		<title>By: Tara R. Alemany</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tara R. Alemany</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 May 2011 21:47:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hi, Kevin. 

As a surviving family member of someone who was a victim of murder, I am FOR the death penalty. Not because I cheer on death or the vengeance that drives some to seek the death of others. Instead, what I despise is the fact that my tax dollars went for 22 years to house, clothe and feed a man who ruthlessly killed another. While I love our country, that doesn&#039;t mean I agree with what we&#039;ve come to see as &quot;justice.&quot; How is it justice that this man is now free, after &quot;serving his time,&quot; when my uncle&#039;s life was cut short at the ripe old age of 24? Andy&#039;s gone while his killer gets a second chance at life. It&#039;s not to say that his life wasn&#039;t destroyed that day as well. But while he was waiting for his second chance, I paid (along with my fellow tax payers) for everything he needed to survive. How fair is that? My only hope is that this man makes something good come out of his own life.

In Osama&#039;s case, his path was clear. He followed it unwaveringly, and showed no signs of ever changing his direction. He&#039;s gone. That&#039;s an accomplishment, not a reason to celebrate. It&#039;s a step in the right direction, and now it&#039;s time to forge a new future.

Peace isn&#039;t always about a lack of fighting among peoples. Peace must exist inwardly before it can exist outwardly. I think this step in our nation&#039;s history will bring greater inward peace to those who lost loved ones as a result of 9/11.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi, Kevin. </p>
<p>As a surviving family member of someone who was a victim of murder, I am FOR the death penalty. Not because I cheer on death or the vengeance that drives some to seek the death of others. Instead, what I despise is the fact that my tax dollars went for 22 years to house, clothe and feed a man who ruthlessly killed another. While I love our country, that doesn&#8217;t mean I agree with what we&#8217;ve come to see as &#8220;justice.&#8221; How is it justice that this man is now free, after &#8220;serving his time,&#8221; when my uncle&#8217;s life was cut short at the ripe old age of 24? Andy&#8217;s gone while his killer gets a second chance at life. It&#8217;s not to say that his life wasn&#8217;t destroyed that day as well. But while he was waiting for his second chance, I paid (along with my fellow tax payers) for everything he needed to survive. How fair is that? My only hope is that this man makes something good come out of his own life.</p>
<p>In Osama&#8217;s case, his path was clear. He followed it unwaveringly, and showed no signs of ever changing his direction. He&#8217;s gone. That&#8217;s an accomplishment, not a reason to celebrate. It&#8217;s a step in the right direction, and now it&#8217;s time to forge a new future.</p>
<p>Peace isn&#8217;t always about a lack of fighting among peoples. Peace must exist inwardly before it can exist outwardly. I think this step in our nation&#8217;s history will bring greater inward peace to those who lost loved ones as a result of 9/11.</p>
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		<title>By: Tanveer Naseer</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tanveer Naseer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 May 2011 19:51:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[“Do not rejoice in the death of one man. Rejoice when there is peace.”

Brilliant Deborah.  While I don&#039;t think anyone would argue that Bin Laden&#039;s death is bad thing, I do agree wholeheartedly that celebrating the death of anyone - regardless of how evil they were - shortens the gap between what we despise and what we aim to be as a society.

In terms of leadership, I think it also serves to remind us of the importance of focusing on purpose, which is why I loved your quote above.  Sorry I missed it, by the way, as I would have gladly shared that nugget on Twitter.  In fact, I&#039;m going to do so right now.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“Do not rejoice in the death of one man. Rejoice when there is peace.”</p>
<p>Brilliant Deborah.  While I don&#8217;t think anyone would argue that Bin Laden&#8217;s death is bad thing, I do agree wholeheartedly that celebrating the death of anyone &#8211; regardless of how evil they were &#8211; shortens the gap between what we despise and what we aim to be as a society.</p>
<p>In terms of leadership, I think it also serves to remind us of the importance of focusing on purpose, which is why I loved your quote above.  Sorry I missed it, by the way, as I would have gladly shared that nugget on Twitter.  In fact, I&#8217;m going to do so right now.</p>
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		<title>By: Leigh Steere</title>
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		<dc:creator>Leigh Steere</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 May 2011 19:48:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Deborah, I have had a whole mishmash of thoughts about this week&#039;s events. Complete coincidence -- but a leader from my son&#039;s Boy Scout troop was in Pakistan for a business trip last week and had arranged to meet with Pakistani Boy Scouts to learn about their programs. Last night, I watched a video the Pakistani Scouts had prepared to say &quot;hi&quot; to their Colorado counterparts. The expression of brotherhood and the sincere desire for cultural exchange was moving. I found myself looking at their uniforms and listening to their greetings and thinking, &quot;They are just like us.&quot; 

For centuries, humans have been uncomfortable with &quot;difference.&quot; Different skin colors. Different religions. Different political views. We continue to kill one another over these things. I do not agree with bin Laden&#039;s views or tactics. But dancing in the streets to celebrate his death does nothing to create a world where we dialogue constructively about difference, instead of judging, attacking and purging.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Deborah, I have had a whole mishmash of thoughts about this week&#8217;s events. Complete coincidence &#8212; but a leader from my son&#8217;s Boy Scout troop was in Pakistan for a business trip last week and had arranged to meet with Pakistani Boy Scouts to learn about their programs. Last night, I watched a video the Pakistani Scouts had prepared to say &#8220;hi&#8221; to their Colorado counterparts. The expression of brotherhood and the sincere desire for cultural exchange was moving. I found myself looking at their uniforms and listening to their greetings and thinking, &#8220;They are just like us.&#8221; </p>
<p>For centuries, humans have been uncomfortable with &#8220;difference.&#8221; Different skin colors. Different religions. Different political views. We continue to kill one another over these things. I do not agree with bin Laden&#8217;s views or tactics. But dancing in the streets to celebrate his death does nothing to create a world where we dialogue constructively about difference, instead of judging, attacking and purging.</p>
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