The Holidays and Tears

by  Chery Gegelman  |  Self Leadership

On Sunday, our church choir and an orchestra filled an entire service with Christmas carols.  As they sang songs that I cherish, I was hit with a sudden realization that there are parts of the world where people are not allowed to sing those songs, or to come together and hear them.  …I choked, I tried to clear my throat, I fought tears and then I cried.  (Partially because I was so overwhelmed with thankfulness for what I have and partially because I was so overwhelmed with grief about what others don’t have.)

Monday I read a blog post by Dan McCarthy about crying in the workplace and was reminded that tears are a human condition and immediately felt thankful for his insights.

Wednesday I visited with a single mom that recently had her car break-down.  It is her only mode of transportation and she needs it to get from her home to work.  It is Christmas and she wants to be able to provide a special season for her son.  …And she cried.

Later in the day I visited with someone that has been EXTREMELY busy caring for others for months, someone who is worn out and suddenly faced with several additional life-altering situations.  …And she cried.

Tonight as I am thinking about how much I love the lights, the sounds, and the smells of the Christmas season, I am also thinking of three families that have lost loved ones this year, of single moms that can’t afford the basics, and of people that don’t have the freedom to choose how they celebrate Christmas.

And I’m wondering…   What can I do to make a difference for those that are struggling?  ….And how can I remember to pause and really SAVOR all that I have?

How about you?  …What brings you to tears this season?  Is there someone in your life that needs you right now?  Are there blessings in your life that you’ve been taking for granted?  What are you going to do about it?


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Chery Gegelman was once a frustrated visionary that learned to lead extensive system-wide changes from the middle. Today she is The Founder of Giana Consulting, listed as a Great Leadership Speaker by Inc., writes a recognized leadership blog and has co-authored two books. Her passion is bringing help and understanding to people and organizations that are leading through change to growth.  »  View Profile

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Jeff Orr  |  07 Dec 2012  |  Reply

Great reminder Chery. While the Christmas season is usually marked with gratefulness and thanksgiving, I believe it should permeate throughout the year. If we all made it a habit to think of others first during the year, perhaps we would ease much needless suffering. What really stands out for me is the season gives me pause to remember, reset, and refocus on what my life is all about.

Mike Henry  |  07 Dec 2012  |  Reply

Chery, thanks. Like Jeff, I think we get too involved in the buying and giving of gifts to actually think about what we’re celebrating and to pay attention to the people and things that really matter. Thanks.

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